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Explore turning points, everyday joys and unexpected challenges after financial independence or retirement, with the date and original source for each account.

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The fun jobs were fun—until the phone could ring.

Mar 2025 · Year 3

Life at the time

  • Kept a low-paid optional job alongside learning, travel and friendships.
  • Spent some time separately from a spouse who continued working.

How it felt

  • Disliked the possibility of being called in, even when the work itself had appeal. “I don't like having 'the phone call' hanging over my head”
  • Appreciated an expanding circle of friends. “My circle of friends is expanding”

He enjoyed becoming less important. Moving away from friends was the harder change.

Jan 2025 · Year 2.75

Life at the time

  • Exercise, home projects, live music and trips filled their Florida days.
  • Old friends visited while new local connections grew slowly.

How it felt

  • He found relief in no longer being professionally important. “real peacefulness in being unimportant”
  • Financial optimization still occupied more mental space than expected. “money remains a topic in my head”

He left the job. His own projects took over the calendar.

2025 · Year 5

Life at the time

  • Devoted much of the calendar to building a cabin.
  • Planned a six-week break; it had not yet been reported as completed.

How it felt

  • Recognized a familiar tendency to push a voluntary project too hard. “There is no reason I need to go so hard.”
  • Still found it difficult to build new friendships. “making newer friends continues to be a struggle.”

Road trips became a way to keep people close

Dec 2024

Life at the time

  • Took extended spring and summer road trips, including Canada.
  • Met blogging friends for hikes, concerts and long conversations.

How it felt

  • Delighted in the welcome from Vancouver Island friends. “We had a wonderful time”
  • Felt the loss of three friends as a reminder of life’s fragility. “A sad reminder of the frailty of life.”

Money settled before identity and friendship did

Nov 2024 · Year 3

Life at the time

  • Tried classes, traveled and continued language practice.
  • Kept in touch with existing friends after uneven meetup experiences.

How it felt

  • Appreciated freedom to experiment despite frequent disappointments. “grateful for the time”
  • Social isolation remained harder than managing the money. “the most challenging”

He found purpose in writing. Then made room for life beyond the blog.

Sep 2024 · Year 6

Life at the time

  • Spent a week each month near his granddaughter and continued RV trips and exercise. “we spend a week down there every month”
  • Formed a retirement discussion group and built community friendships.

How it felt

  • Valued making family time a recurring part of life.
  • Found friendships based on shared interests rather than wealth or former jobs. “We never talk about money”

Purpose grows into a community, then new local connections

Aug 2024

Life at the time

  • Joined a local Probus group with Mike after finishing their townhouse renovations.
  • Volunteered with Share the Dignity and celebrated her birthday with family.

How it felt

  • Felt warmly welcomed by the local retirees’ group. “warmly welcomed”
  • Felt moved by birthday messages and the affection they conveyed. “feeling the love”

A second retirement, and a new home in Lisbon

Jun 2024Interview snapshot · published 2024-10

Life at the time

  • After retiring twice, she moved from the United States to Lisbon and worked on building community while maintaining ties back home.

How it felt

  • She loved being out of work and recognized that habitual underspending could limit what she enjoyed. “I don’t want to have the biggest bank balance in the cemetery!”

They built a busy life in Nicaragua. Eighteen years later, another adventure beckoned.

May 2024 · Year 18

Life at the time

  • Pickleball and golf had become regular activities.
  • They were considering Mexico or Italy, without having completed a move.

How it felt

  • They enjoyed their life and expressed no regrets. “We have no regrets”
  • Leaving established friendships would make a new beginning harder. “start over again”

She loved being retired. She still needed a reason to use her brain.

May 2024 · Year 2

Life at the time

  • Sold her car, moved to Japan and started a year of language school.
  • Set out to spend more freely on food and experiences.

How it felt

  • Saw school as an answer to missing social contact and intellectual challenge; the longer-term result was still open. “Moving to Japan and studying Japanese is my solution to both of them.”
  • Was deliberately practicing enjoyment of her money. “I'm trying to flex my spending muscle”

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