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Selected life timeline 2012—2023

Comfort came easily. Companionship took longer.

Five years after leaving work, u/graspinforthenextcan had freedom, travel and a persistent social gap. Six years later, a shared home, a quieter city and renewed learning had changed the balance. The durable reward was security; the harder work was building a life with other people in it.

Finances
Net worth at retirement2017-11-29 · Personal
Not established

A comparable starting net worth was not established in these sources.

Source
Posts2
2017Year 5
Post 01

A free calendar can be a lonely one

“Finding the balance between the two impulses (self indulgence vs. generosity/community/interdependence) is a continual struggle.”

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Life at the time

  • Used classes and exercise to bring structure to open time.
  • Found work contacts fading while friends remained occupied with jobs and children.

How it felt

  • Could find the absence of structure disorienting. “the lack of structure that FI facilitates can be disorienting”
  • Was still balancing autonomy, activity and the wish for company. “Finding the balance between the two impulses”
FriendsRoutineTravel
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Notes

Publication date at available precision. Retirement milestones follow the author’s own count; a missing milestone is not inferred.

Isolation, old colleagues and self-imposed structure.

Editorial summaries with short, attributed quotations. The original contains the full story.

2023Year 11
Post 02

Learning and a shared home change the balance

“However, as much as I still love my old hobbies, I have found increased meaning and purpose in new activities in which I am relatively new and inexperienced.”

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Life at the time

  • Moved to a quieter life in another city with a partner.
  • Supported her goals and added new learning alongside established hobbies.

How it felt

  • Valued the progress that came from being a beginner again. “The feeling of progress/self improvement is priceless.”
  • Continued to appreciate the reassurance of financial independence. “the peace of mind that FI brings never gets old”
HomeCuriosityFamily
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Notes

Publication date at available precision. Retirement milestones follow the author’s own count; a missing milestone is not inferred.

Life with partner, changed location and learning.

Editorial summaries with short, attributed quotations. The original contains the full story.

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Last checked Sep 2026. The accounts are self-reported. This timeline follows selected accounts, including recollections where labeled; it is not a complete archive.

  • Matching Reddit author and explicitly linked earlier update establish continuity. No offline identity, exact age or starting net worth is inferred.

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