Common Questions · Work & contribution
Selected accounts describe protecting personal priorities by declining opportunities or reducing work that no longer serves them.
Appealing opportunities can crowd out your priorities
He declined more commitments to protect personal projects, while taking the initiative to arrange time with friends and family.
“this third year was marked by saying no to most things”
Mad Fientist 2019 · Year 3
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You can stop pursuing growth once life feels right
She reduced publishing and stopped trying to grow the blog. Continuing work supported family experiences, while she felt she had reached the autonomy she wanted.
“a level of optionality that feels liberating”
MF Mrs. Flamingo Oct 2023
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Mad Fientist
2019 · Year 3
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